On the whole “lesbians invalidate my gender” thing, how does that even make sense? I mean, there are lots of people who won’t sleep with me because I’m fat, anything but submissive, and even pushy. But I’m still me. Still the woman who doesn’t know my place, still instantly read as female. To quote an old poet, you could build a city on my hips. And I have to have that sense of self to make it through the world as a fat WOC. If your sense of self is that fragile, go home. (General you not you)

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It doesn’t make sense, but they’re not fully sane.

I’ve met quite a few other trans women. I’ve talked to close to 80 in real life. About 17 of those being young transitioners (=< 25 years old when started transition), and the rest older. I can’t even count the number I’ve interacted with online over the years. Besides the few who accepted they were male, all of them have had an obvious need for constant validation and attention. I can’t speak for those other few trans women, but I know there’s times when I have issues with validation too. It’s so much worse for trans women who are trying to believe they’re actually women and therefore female though.

For them they’re trying to believe something that deep down they have to know is a lie. It’s such a basic biological truth of our bodies, there’s no way they can’t know. And it’s always eating at them. It’s a part of dysphoria. They need constant external validation to reaffirm this belief. This need causes them to do all sorts of things.

During the early stages of my transition, I started to become hyper feminine for awhile. A bit of it was finally feeling like I had the freedom to be as feminine as I wanted to be, but mostly it was trying to validate the belief that I could one day become female. These attempts at validation only stopped once I fully accepted that I was male and no hormones or surgeries were going to change that fact.

For autogynephilic “lesbian” trans women this need gets mixed up with sexual lust. What greater act of validation could there be for them, than a lesbian to sleep with them. Lesbians only sleep with women so they must be women if a lesbian would sleep with them. When a lesbian woman justifiably denies them this validation, it infuriates them and they take it as an attack on a core part of their identity. That’s when male socialization kicks in.

The way they see it lesbians are supposed to be their prize for transitioning. They did all the steps and took all the lumps that came with transition. They even gave up some of their male privilege. In their mind they earned sex with a lesbian. Now some woman is going to deny them. And they’ve seen lesbian couples on tv and “lesbian” porn, so they know what they’re being denied.  

So they use every male trick they know to force themselves on women to attack lesbians who deny them sex. Only now, since most of them were straight white men before transition, they get to use that evil word that’s been used to call them out on their racist, sexist, homophobic, bullshit hurt them so much called discrimination. 

Basically to sum this up, most “lesbian” trans women are narcissistic misogynists who take the oppression olympics, an already stupid concept, and twist it into a weapon to sexually coerce lesbians who they feel owe them sex for transitioning.   

Quite.